W R I T E –
My #onelittleword for 2019. For many reasons.
May is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month and reading stories of so many fellow mom bloggers on Instagram, took me back to my initial days of motherhood and how I hated everything about being a mother, except my darling baby of course!
I’ve never been the kind who makes New Year resolutions or writes down goals. Like a true Taurean, I just get on to doing something till I achieve it, or till I realize it’s not meant for me!
This year I was introduced to a new concept by a couple of wonderful bloggers – One Little Word. It is originally a concept of Ali Edwards from Oregon, USA since 2006, who explains the concept very simply as “A single word can be a powerful thing.” (https://aliedwards.com/one-
I see it as one word or theme to live your year and your life by – be it in your relationships, be it at work or home, be it with your projects, be it with your goals, etc. The word should inspire and motivate you to keep moving towards something better.
I saw some fellow UAE Mom Bloggers come up with some wonderful ideas for their own words for 2018 and it got me thinking what is the one thing lacking in me?
It’s amazing how children learn so much by watching and observing their parents,but what’s even more special is how parents can learn to see everything in a new light when they are with their children.
Every new experience for the child, becomes a new experience for the parents too, as they get to learn a different way of exploring and dealing with things.
I’m a full-time, stay-at-home mom who manages a business, a home and a blog on a part-time basis. Come school vacations, and the pressure increases as the kids wake up with me in the morning and sleep late at night with me too. This means that there are days when I am with the kids 24×7.
Over the last 5 years of mommyhood, I’ve seen various friends go on holidays without their kids – some on a girls’ trip and others on a mini-moon with their husbands. My husband and I always thought that we would not enjoy a holiday without the kids and we would not want to deprive them of the pleasure and learning that comes with travelling and being in a new place.
I am an introvert. My uncles and aunts often describe my childhood self as “the girl who used to hide behind her mother”. I was quite shy and only comfortable around my immediate family and close friends.
When I was in high school, my older sister went to Wollongong, Australia to complete her undergraduate degree. She has always been a people’s person and loves making friends. Looking at her having a great learning experience there – both inside and outside the classroom – I had decided that I would also like to go study abroad.
Post my mother’s heart attack last month, our family has been shaken up. It has disturbed me deeply and such a close encounter with life makes you re-evaluate life and it’s relationships, the true meaning of happiness and what really matters. I had put down my thoughts in a previous post: A wake-up call!
A thought that has stayed with me since then, is that if I still need my mother with me at every step, how dependent are my kids, who are just 4 and 2 years old, on me.
They have a whole life ahead of them and a mother is one of the most important companions in the journey of life. She is not simply known as “a cook, nurse, nanny, teacher, caregiver, best friend in one”. She truly lives up to all those roles, and more.
I write this while I’m sitting outside the ICU, praying for my mom to recover from a heart attack and an angioplasty. Sitting here, I can only think of how a close and scary encounter with life serves as a wake-up call.
As a child, the most important people in your life are your parents. As you grow older, you get busy in your own life, you do not realise how your priorities are shifting. When you become a parent, you realise that there is no love greater than what you feel for your child. You start to appreciate everything your parents have done and are still continuing to do for you, all over again. But by then, sadly, you do not have the time to be with them and reciprocate their selfless love. No doubts on the love you feel for them, but life somehow doesn’t allow you to act on it and be there for them physically. For most parents, it is a stage of life when they need their kids the most – due to ailing health, loneliness, etc.
And then one day, God decides to give you a wake-up call!
Most Friday mornings of mine are spent in bed, hoping the children get up as late as they can, so I can have a lie-in too. The morning of Friday, 11th November, was very different. I was hoping the kids would sleep till late…but only coz I was out of the house trying to achieve something for myself.
I had seen a post by Natalie Robinson on Facebook about a Photowalk through the souks of Old Dubai. Organised by Natalie and Lianne Dawes, two well-known photographers in Dubai, the walk was about teaching a small group of like-minded women some photography basics. I got in touch with Natalie and registered for the walk, along with 12 other women.